tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.comments2023-06-20T06:46:10.521-05:00Be the Best You Can BeJGFhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14580785981874040314noreply@blogger.comBlogger148125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-67845426948946324722018-05-14T12:22:28.123-05:002018-05-14T12:22:28.123-05:00I used to work for a person who seemed to NOT be a...I used to work for a person who seemed to NOT be able to distinguish false memories. I believe she thought to herself, "I need to tell Rick to do X today." She would (I assume) forget to do it, but in her mind she had -- she had that concrete memory of telling me. Then she would be furious with me later for not having done what she "clearly remembered" telling me to do. (Others I worked with confirmed this.)<br /><br />I feel like my 16 yo Aspergers kid does the same thing. He has clear memories of events at which he wasn't present, but has heard others talk about. He puts himself in the scene and it becomes a memory. I think he also "pre-makes" memories and so, when an event doesn't jive with his "memory"of it, he goes into meltdown mode.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03618662780660402792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-43812899451363010202018-02-04T20:58:16.096-06:002018-02-04T20:58:16.096-06:00Could you pls review Mobicip as well?Could you pls review Mobicip as well?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11399715804311903851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-84311932230093100082017-05-26T13:07:33.305-05:002017-05-26T13:07:33.305-05:00I recommend reaching out to a Mental Health Case M...I recommend reaching out to a Mental Health Case Manager to help with services. I am a case manager through St. Davids Center. There are many factors that should be considered when considering waivers and grants. St. Davids is contracted through Hennepin County and I see you are moving. You will have to find an agency that is contracted through Wright County. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11601849951694449570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-82266095728372026612017-05-24T06:04:57.879-05:002017-05-24T06:04:57.879-05:00Thank you for yuor articleThank you for yuor articleAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03530353275370968750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-10578180348804401852016-11-16T18:59:05.779-06:002016-11-16T18:59:05.779-06:00I don't know Missy, it's been a long time ...I don't know Missy, it's been a long time since we dealt with those questions. I wrote that post in 2008; when I reread it today it seemed quite unfamiliar.<br /><br />Good post I must say, but it's all I know.JGFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14580785981874040314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-55609342221408261732016-11-16T12:41:49.758-06:002016-11-16T12:41:49.758-06:00My son is autistic and he is only 2 1/2 years old....My son is autistic and he is only 2 1/2 years old. We have recently been approved for TEFRA and PCA Choice. We have been told that if we went with the Consumer Support Grant that we would get less funds but that is the only way to purchase needed things for his safety such as a fence or equipment to better his therapies at home. We are in Hennepin County right now but as of Dec. 1st, we will be moving to Wright County. Is there any services that can help with these things without us having to change to the CSG? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14198133402281698923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-87095356902640317282015-04-30T16:56:12.527-05:002015-04-30T16:56:12.527-05:00I totally get where you're going with that, yo...I totally get where you're going with that, you put it into better words than I could of. <br />But what about hypnosis for fear ect, I wasn't thinking about my sons traits/ticks ect. But he is terrified of most foods, and has been since he was 2 years old?Brooki27https://www.blogger.com/profile/06719975871919874522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-19249144043071920102014-11-06T14:29:36.395-06:002014-11-06T14:29:36.395-06:00Steven, love to talk. I sent you an email. Steven, love to talk. I sent you an email. JGFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14580785981874040314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-10004715439787648932014-11-06T14:02:31.557-06:002014-11-06T14:02:31.557-06:00I'd like to talk with the author. My special ...I'd like to talk with the author. My special needs son was the manager this year for the Corner Canyon High School Mountain Bike team (largest in the country). Last night we went to the final banquet of the year and the Executive Director of the Utah Mountain Biking association pulled us aside and wants him to ride next year. Something we never really considered before now. I just spoke with the owner of a local bike shop who's son also has special needs and we are strategizing about modified bikes and a special needs division for competitions.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12895797129540610400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-70321670797656581192014-07-05T21:12:27.239-05:002014-07-05T21:12:27.239-05:00I have been writing a variety of javascript apps f...I have been writing a variety of javascript apps for my "asperger" child. Anyone is welcome to use them for free. If you have requests, I may be able to accommodate.<br /><br />http://www.donnadietz.com/kidsDonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01235675097391598450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-46277151795553860292014-06-16T14:11:17.294-05:002014-06-16T14:11:17.294-05:00Question: just found this blog... my DD (over 30 l...Question: just found this blog... my DD (over 30 lives at home) got a DD waiver in 2001.. used it under the CDCS for a couple years, then went to the DD traditional waiver. We moved counties and went back to the DD waiver using CDCS... I am confused as to how you are using the terms CDCS waiver, and DD waiver? I thought is was a DD waiver, and you choose to use it under "traditional" or "CDCS" ? cozyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06622452003231687129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-49059002841588940552014-04-30T14:29:32.043-05:002014-04-30T14:29:32.043-05:00My #2 is like that -- very funny, esp with wordpla...My #2 is like that -- very funny, esp with wordplay.JGFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14580785981874040314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-26318299522847531582014-04-29T07:20:23.705-05:002014-04-29T07:20:23.705-05:00The ability to lie starts with the intelligence to...The ability to lie starts with the intelligence to recognize the difference between "what is" and "what should be". In my limited experience with kids who are developing with some kind of ASD deficits, that intelligence is clearly present even if the conscious control of facial expressions is limited or odd. This same kind of recognition, BTW is critical to telling jokes or finding humor in situations. It was his sense of humor that first tipped me off that a certain nephew was not as disabled as I at first thought.George Crashdummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12456409626217667769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-54148017566437535682014-04-07T08:50:58.562-05:002014-04-07T08:50:58.562-05:00I am also a hypnotist with a child with autism and...I am also a hypnotist with a child with autism and am very interested in any information I can read about hypnosis and autism<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16238406887845272056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-83712979098330170512013-05-05T16:48:07.123-05:002013-05-05T16:48:07.123-05:00This is really valuable. Thank you.This is really valuable. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-86985829876534861332013-01-07T12:32:13.921-06:002013-01-07T12:32:13.921-06:00"Gradually increase time restrictions and int..."Gradually increase time restrictions and introduce other limits. Jane is first allowed to talk about train engines three times a day. Then, Jane is only allowed to talk about train engines with her family three times a day. The eventual goal is for Jane to speak about train engines to her family only for one minute, twice a day."<br /><br />This would teach Jane the very important lesson that her family are evil, hateful people who hate her. She would eventually remember this. If she managed a successful career as (for instance) a unionized locomotive engineer, she would carefully cut off all contact with her abusive family. If they needed comfort in their old age, she would quite rationally provide none.<br /><br />This is just really, really bad advice from really nasty people. It set me off just reading it.<br /><br />In contrast, it's fairly easy to direct an obsession with trains into extremely productive directions, from reading and writing ("Did you know train drivers have to write down every order they receive, clearly and legibly?") to math and engineering to social skills ("How do you think they convince people who don't like railroads to let them run a railroad across their property?")<br /><br />The suppression-of-interests protocol these conformist idiots recommend would only be appropriate for an inherently unhealthy obsession (such as, perhaps, self-flagellation or torture).Nathanaelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-32264834045710035322013-01-07T12:21:35.755-06:002013-01-07T12:21:35.755-06:00They're copying this from the insane testing p...They're copying this from the insane testing protocols in phys-ed classes, which are utterly pointless -- and cruel -- for anyone with any sort of physical disability, even a very mild one. They've been around a long time, since the 70s I think.Nathanaelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-66532791131788680192012-11-23T04:33:20.730-06:002012-11-23T04:33:20.730-06:00Hi! I am a phd student in psychology. I am also an...Hi! I am a phd student in psychology. I am also an Aspergers who has taken a course in hypnosis. Before the course I thought of hypnosis as something that i would never be able to do since I find myself too aware of what is going on inside of me all the time. And as predicted I didn't find my self very hypnotized. But my professor was of other thoughts, he claimed that I was very easy to hypnotize. At first I didn't get it, but after lots of thinking and reading I understood what was going on. Being hypnotized as a person without autistic difficulties, makes the person get into an autistic state, in my opinion. So when I was being 'hypnotisized' I expected a new dimension of councieness but was faced with my, for me, normal autistic world. That's the games I used to play with my self as a kid: being in my hypnotic 'bubble' was fun anything could happen. When people called for me, thinking i was unreachable since i didnt answer I was having lots of fun in My hypnotic state. So is hypnosis à good solution to help autistic people? According To me: no. You want to get them out of that world not deeper.Sakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08584750955422118113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-9700527923081361262012-09-03T22:26:50.421-05:002012-09-03T22:26:50.421-05:00Thank you!
I write the blog for you and others l...Thank you! <br /><br />I write the blog for you and others like you, so it's gratifying to hear it's useful.JGFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14580785981874040314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-79616502316826615272012-09-03T11:03:28.567-05:002012-09-03T11:03:28.567-05:00You could be writing the description of our son an...You could be writing the description of our son and our family. We're a few years behind you in age/stage, but getting there soon, soon. I keep reading your blog to see what strategies I can gather that may work for us. ITA on your observations re psychologists/therapists. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-74806681779275127382012-05-12T20:04:11.828-05:002012-05-12T20:04:11.828-05:00Summary: I don't believe that this concern is...Summary: I don't believe that this concern is valid.<br /><br />Disclaimer: I'm speaking from the point of view of someone who has 529 plans, some with my children as beneficiaries, some for nieces, and some for children of dear friends.<br /><br />I'm also not a lawyer or such, but...<br /><br />A 529 plan is *not* in the name of the child. It belongs to the person who set it up - the child is a "beneficiary". In fact, one of the nice things about 529 plans is that are not/should not be reported as the child's asset (although it does have to be reported as a parental asset w.r.t. your own children). <br /><br />If that abstract claim wasn't enough, it is a fact that 529 assets can be freely moved (by the owner) from one child's account to another related child's account (up to cousins, but I don't know the exact limits). So, in theory, the special-needs child might have $1,000 in their account – or not even have an account - and have assets transferred in from a sibling at any time.Glenn Trewitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11938573310599944069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-88223878216115667102011-09-06T10:51:54.072-05:002011-09-06T10:51:54.072-05:00Yes, JGF, I have read it. Worth a reread. Try Co...Yes, JGF, I have read it. Worth a reread. Try Collaborative Problem Solving as much as possible He is currently in Equine Assisted Psychotherapy which seems to be a good fit (finally). Making slow progress. I am desperate for something to calm this aggression for the whole family's sake. Can you tell me why you don't think it will work? Is it the specific suggestion or in general? If it is this suggestion specifically, maybe we can try it for something else. Thank you for your help.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-46147907342192087132011-09-04T22:23:58.395-05:002011-09-04T22:23:58.395-05:00@Anonymous - I don't think hypnotism will help...@Anonymous - I don't think hypnotism will help in this context. Have you read Greenes 'The Explosive Child'? It was one of the most important books I've read. We have lived with an explosive child; though in many ways he does much better than he used to.JGFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14580785981874040314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-55317181001732130082011-09-04T21:59:55.081-05:002011-09-04T21:59:55.081-05:00I have a child w/ autism who is "high functio...I have a child w/ autism who is "high functioning", toward the Asperger's end of the spectrum in some respects and very intelligent. However, he has overwhelming anxieties, very low frustration toleration and very few self-soothing, calming strategies, especially when overwhelmed. Therefore, he can quickly become aggressive, destroying property and attacking me, primarily. Possibly physical aggression may have become a maladaptive coping skill. I wondered if anyone knows if hypnotic suggestion might work to instill an adaptive coping strategy to calm him (while continuing other types of therapy to develop his internal world). Safety is a real concern and outplacement, which I do not want, is becoming a serious consideration.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8545834.post-45589276179985970112011-04-19T04:09:12.856-05:002011-04-19T04:09:12.856-05:00Having been trained in hypnosis and NLP, I myself ...Having been trained in hypnosis and NLP, I myself have been wondering about how helpful these could be for a family with an autistic child. I am not an expert on autism - far from it - but I am fascinated by this idea. <br /><br />With regard to the comment about "even placebo therapies can hurt.... nocebo" - I do understand the concern, particularly when a person does not understand what hypnosis and NLP are, vs what they are commonly believed to be by the inexperienced public. And so I have to counter that statement, for the benefit of anyone who may be struggling with their own autistic child, and possible concerns regarding dangers of hypnosis and NLP.<br /><br />Can hypnosis/NLP hurt? I suppose, if an untrained/unqualified person started fiddling around with words, yes, harm could possibly come of it. But wait? People talk all day long? Is this different? I don't think it is. People who don't understand the power of language throw words around constantly, and those words are seeds planted on the subconscious minds of the passive listener (the autistic child?) For example, I know a woman who has an autistic daughter who will sometimes say things within earshot of her daughter, to another (innocently) "Oh, she (daughter) can't communicate, she can't respond the way you and I do... she can't understand or read facial expressions... she can't..." And I began my interest in this topic as a result of hearing these comments. Perhaps, if her daughter is already in a naturally induced trance-like state... then just perhaps, the use of these 'cant' phrases could be communicating with the childs subconscious that these are concrete facts. WIthin the 'cant' there is a certainty, and as autistics tend to be even more concrete than the rest of us, how much more potentially harmful could such statements be. <br /><br />Hypnosis and NLP are simply using words in a very conscious way to affect the subconscious experience and possibly promote change. With regard to doing harm, I think there is more harm in NOT understanding how POWERFUL words are, than in avoiding hypnosis and NLP out of fear or simple innocent ignorance.<br /><br />As I said, I am not an expert on autism. However, from what I have seen, it appears as though these children are actually in a natural trance-state, and so the words which we choose when speaking not only to them, but around them and about them, just may have some impact...?!?!? SO I would urge anyone who is dealing with an autistic child to not refer to the childs condition as a fixed and unchanging, definitive condition of lack. I would encourage the shifting of language away from "can't" and toward "I wonder when he will..." and the like. By wondering about the positive possibilities, extending hope, perhaps a seed is planted which the autistic mind can interpret as an indicator that the persons condition CAN evolve. I don't believe that hope is a horrible thing. I think that parents try to cope with accepting that their child is different to the point of convincing themselves and their family that the child will never improve, almost as a protection against hoping that improvement comes. Perhaps the improvements will be minor, but setting someone up for expecting NO improvement (subconsciously) isn't going to yeild anything but self fulfilling prophesy, in my opinion.<br /><br />Hypnosis and NLP are really (to simplify it) just a deliberate and conscious use of words. Whether we know it or not, we are, by communicating at all (which even silence IS communication), we ARE planting seeds on eachothers subconscious mind, and yes, to do so without awareness could be very dangerous. More dangerous even than the fears of hypnosis, in my opinion.T.I.noreply@blogger.com